So, my husband and myself planned to full-time and workcamp not waiting until retirement. We have a son who is 27 and has Down syndrome. We looked at different programs and he tried some and they were inadequate to unspeakable. So, are plans are in the works of being totally altered.
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SnowGypsy said
08:11 AM Sep 4, 2013
Thank you everyone for the words of encouragement. I do know that things have a way of falling into place but, there are days........... Obviously, with our son, we have faced a few obstacles in our time. What is it? "Good things come to those that wait." I didn't used to understand it but I get it now. Too many people just rush into something sort of knowing it isn't right but don't want to wait and then, well, we probably all have done it and know how that turns out.
-- Edited by SnowGypsy on Wednesday 4th of September 2013 08:13:03 AM
TheHarveys said
02:03 PM Sep 4, 2013
We can sympathize with you. We have a special needs daughter who is 32. She was in a group home with two of her best friends. She was there for about a year and a half. But, it was not a good environment for her and, about a year ago, we ended up bringing her back home with us. She does much better at home with us and is much happier. However, we also have had to adapt our plans. Our daughter is very self-sufficient and a joy to be around, but she does have very specific needs and requirements. Those things tend to really tie us down. But we have decided that her happiness is important enough to us that we will adapt our full-time plans to include her...although we are still looking for a suitable place for her where she can be happy and fulfilled.
Hang in there. In the meantime, don't forget to live and enjoy each day you have. You do not want life to pass you by while you are "planning" for it.
Dog Folks said
02:09 PM Sep 4, 2013
Lots of times when things don't work out as planned the result is even better. Have faith.
Dance Chick said
02:35 PM Sep 4, 2013
I don't have an answer for you except to offer my support for your situation. My nephew (my brother's son) is Downs, so I'm aware somewhat of your trials. He is 24, and it is a constant struggle to find his place in life that will allow them to have their own lives. I'm not sure he'll ever be able to live without them being right around the corner looking over his shoulder. For now, he is back home as programs they've tried haven't worked. I know their goal has always been that he live independently of them...perhaps a group home.
I hope things work out for you. I agree with Dogfolks. Things will work out even better than you had imagined. Hang in there.
Lucky Mike said
02:41 PM Sep 4, 2013
Ditto.......some times trying to plan and work things out only disappoints......and sometimes letting things go there course and choose there path leads to amazing outcomes!!!!!
I hope it all falls into place in a manner that is good for all.
So, my husband and myself planned to full-time and workcamp not waiting until retirement. We have a son who is 27 and has Down syndrome. We looked at different programs and he tried some and they were inadequate to unspeakable. So, are plans are in the works of being totally altered.
-- Edited by SnowGypsy on Wednesday 4th of September 2013 05:01:39 AM
Thank you everyone for the words of encouragement. I do know that things have a way of falling into place but, there are days........... Obviously, with our son, we have faced a few obstacles in our time. What is it? "Good things come to those that wait." I didn't used to understand it but I get it now. Too many people just rush into something sort of knowing it isn't right but don't want to wait and then, well, we probably all have done it and know how that turns out.
-- Edited by SnowGypsy on Wednesday 4th of September 2013 08:13:03 AM
Hang in there. In the meantime, don't forget to live and enjoy each day you have. You do not want life to pass you by while you are "planning" for it.
I hope things work out for you. I agree with Dogfolks. Things will work out even better than you had imagined. Hang in there.
I hope it all falls into place in a manner that is good for all.
Live , Breathe , relax....................